The Boy Is Mine

Album: The Boy Is Mine (1998)
Charted: 2 1
Play Video

Songfacts®:

  • A massive hit from 1998, "The Boy Is Mine" was written by Brandy together with Rodney Jerkins, LaShawn Daniels, Fred Jerkins III and Japhe Tejeda. The song's lyrics tell a story about two women disputing the love of a man. They were inspired by Paul McCartney and Michael Jackson's 1982 duet "The Girl Is Mine," and by The Jerry Springer Show, where love triangles among the guests were a common theme.
  • In real life, there was no boy that Brandy and Monica were fighting over - the story was completely made up. The song exploited the persistent rumor that Brandy and Monica were locked in a genuine feud. "We didn't even know each other," Monica explained in 1998. "I had never even seen her before because I listen to a lot of gospel music. From the time she was [first] released and I was [first] released, instantly people compared us and I never understood it. It's like they chose the two of us out of the bunch to put at odds. They never did it with me and Aaliyah, or Brandy and Aaliyah. It was always Brandy and Monica. That's why we took the song and brought humor to a situation that people tried to make serious. We thought it would be really funny to show us feuding in the video and then come together at the end, because we wanted people to let go of the idea of us not liking each other - but of course, they haven't."
  • Originally, Monica and Brandy recorded the song together in Los Angeles, but that joint session didn't sound right to the song's producer, Dallas Austin, so Monica rerecorded her vocals separately in Atlanta with Austin, who also worked with the popular trio TLC on songs like "Creep" and "Unpretty." Austin told Billboard: "I had to make Monica Monica on it. I didn't want it to turn into something where Monica's full character wasn't on it. It had to have their attitudes on it, and not just be them singing a song."
  • The song spent 13 weeks at #1 in the US, making it the all-time #1 female duet in US chart history and the top-selling US single in 1998, with over 2 million copies sold. It topped the Canadian chart for 15 weeks.

    The Hot 100 success was aided by a Billboard rule making songs that weren't sold as singles in the US ineligible for the chart - a stipulation that was lifted later in 1998. This kept "Torn" by Natalie Imbruglia and "Iris" by the Goo Goo Dolls - both not sold as singles - from competing on the chart.
  • "The Boy Is Mine" won the 1998 Grammy for Best Rhythm & Blues Performance by a Duo.
  • Prior to the release of this song, R&B had not been a popular musical genre in Asia. "The Boy Is Mine" changed that when it topped the Asia Hitlist for eight weeks.
  • In the music video, directed by Joseph Kahn, the girls are neighbors fighting over their shared boyfriend, played by Mekhi Phifer.
  • Brandy and Monica sang "The Boy Is Mine" at the 1998 MTV Video Music Awards, where it lost Video Of The Year to Madonna's "Ray Of Light." That was the only time they performed the song together until 2012, when they sang it at the V103 Soul Sessions. The next time they sang it together was on August 31, 2020 to close out their Verzuz Battle, which was streamed by over a million viewers. In 2025 Brandy and Monica announced they'd be teaming up for The Boy Is Mine tour.
  • Amber Riley and Naya Rivera sang this on Glee in the 2010 episode "Laryngitis."
  • In 2024, Ariana Grande released an entirely different song titled "The Boy Is Mine." While Brandy & Monica's original has the two divas going head-to-head over a love interest, Grande's version finds her all cool confidence. She delivers the story with a smooth and assured attitude, leaving no doubt she and her man were always meant to be.

    Brandy and Monica don't get left out. The two queens grace the music video with a cameo appearance and even lend their silky vocals to the remix.

Comments: 1

  • Danielle from Houston, TxThis is the song that I will remember for decades. I love this song when it came out and I still love this song.
see more comments

Editor's Picks

Art Alexakis of Everclear

Art Alexakis of EverclearSongwriter Interviews

The lead singer of Everclear, Art is also their primary songwriter.

La La Brooks of The Crystals

La La Brooks of The CrystalsSong Writing

The lead singer on "Da Doo Ron Ron" and "Then He Kissed Me," La La explains how and why Phil Spector replaced The Crystals with Darlene Love on "He's A Rebel."

Trans Soul Rebels: Songs About Transgenderism

Trans Soul Rebels: Songs About TransgenderismSong Writing

A history of songs dealing with transgender issues, featuring Pink Floyd, David Bowie, Morrissey and Green Day.

Lajon Witherspoon of Sevendust

Lajon Witherspoon of SevendustSongwriter Interviews

The Sevendust frontman talks about the group's songwriting process, and how trips to the Murder Bar helped forge their latest album.

Jon Anderson of Yes

Jon Anderson of YesSongwriter Interviews

From the lake in "Roundabout" to Sister Bluebird in "Starship Trooper," Jon Anderson talks about how nature and spirituality play into his lyrics for Yes.

Angelo Moore of Fishbone

Angelo Moore of FishboneSongwriter Interviews

Fishbone has always enjoyed much more acclaim than popularity - Angelo might know why.