Album: Year Of The Spider (2003)

Charted: 87

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• Cold frontman Scooter Ward got some help with the lyrics to this song from Weezer frontman Rivers Cuomo, who also sang on the track. Ward explained: "It always sounded to me like a Weezer song - so much that when I was recording the verses, I couldn't sing on it. Naturally, I called Rivers Cuomo, who's a good buddy of ours, and asked him to write some lyrics. He sent them back, and it was awesome, so he sang on the verses and I did the chorus. The thing is, he never explained to me what he thought the song was about, so I figured it was just about some stupid girl; on the chorus, I'm like, 'Why does she treat me like this?' Actually, it's about me trying to figure out what Rivers is saying." >>>

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  James - Ellicott City, MD
• Ward explained his interpretation of the song: "You could just be a total piece of trash and at the same time, you don't know that you are. You have this person that's going to leave you and you don't have any idea why. A lot of people are blind to the fact that they are idiots."

Comments: 7

• Yvonne702 from Las VegasI love this song. Love it. It's about a lack of control..and not understanding or accepting it. I don't agree with the whole serial killer vibe. smh. Some people use social media platforms to say the stupidest s--t. That's what a therapist is for. Strongly suggest you get off the internet and go find one. Soon.
• Luna Loud from Royal Woods, MichiganChris from the states: Dude, where tf do you get psychotic abusive serial killer vibes from this song? I'm kind of concerned about you, bro. He's just upset that his chick is leaving him/not giving him the time of day. Stop reading into to it too much.
• Natalie from Lorena, TxTo me hearing that Cold and Rivers Cuomo both worked on a song is so weird. I would never think that Rivers would have a part in a song like this. I'm used to the Weezer essence. But that only makes this song even better. I love singing to this, and I definitely think it's about the man feeling like he can't give the girl enough. This "stupid girl" isn't actually stupid, but such a good person that he can't compare to her.
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• Chris from The StatesIt's an abusive guy who wants to have control over this woman and once she leaves/goes away turns his rage inward. Since he's conditioned not to feel sadness, he feels anger - this type of guy either starts to make suicidal threats (come back or I'll kill myself) or turns his violence onto others: could be this girl, any other girl/future partner. If pathology is there, could become a serial killer, school shooter, take your pick. In short: toxic masculinity.
• Alyssa from Forney, TxIts a really good song!
• Lange from Camden, Methis song rocks! i don't think it's about w/e saki said. it seems to me that it's more of a girl leaving a guy (she's going away) and he's upset about it, but then he shifts from sadness (what's wrong w/ my life today) to anger (stupid girl)
• Saki from Usato me, this song represents a guy who loves a girl alot but the girl is too stupid to see how much the man loves her..........

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