Sorry Mom

Album: Patterns (2024)
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  • Kelsea Ballerini grew up an only child under the watchful care of her father, Ed, a sales manager, and her mother Carla, who worked in marketing. It's a classic American upbringing, but with a twist: Ballerini has always been a bit of a firecracker, and on this personal, honest, song she takes a good, hard look at her past and admits that she hasn't always lived up to what her family might have expected of her.
  • Ballerini sings in this mid-tempo, pop-tinged reflection about drinking, dropping out of college, having premarital sex, and sometimes putting her career before her family - actions that, unsurprisingly, gave her mother more than a few sleepless nights. But as she tells it, all those missteps and rebellious choices helped shape her into a stronger, wiser, and more self-assured woman.

    "I love how our relationship evolves," Ballerini said of her bond with her mother. "My Mom didn't always get it, and she was even disappointed at times, but she's always been there for me, like gravity. When you can see your own growth, when you realize you've become a woman she's proud of - that's a lot to fit into a song."
  • Sorry, Mom, I didn't graduate
    After two years and some change
    And that money went to waste
    I know it wasn't cheap tuition
    There were dreams to chase


    After two years studying marketing at Lipscomb University, the pull of music proved too strong, leading Ballerini to drop out and fully pursue her musical dreams.

    "Everyone was encouraging me to really dig into the reality of how we live, and that's what 'Sorry Mom' is all about. It's about chasing dreams, dropping out of school, losing my virginity, and making tough choices," said Ballerini. "But the best part is, with time, I've come to appreciate how she felt about all of it, and I understand why. Now, we can look back on those moments, knowing they were part of the journey. And when you see how everything turned out, well, it's hard not to say it all worked out pretty well. That's something you just can't know until you've lived it."
  • Ballerini co-wrote the song with Nashville songwriters Hillary Lindsey and Jessie Jo Dillon, Little Big Town's Karen Fairchild, and the singer's production partner Alysa Vanderheym. It's a candid ballad that doubles as a letter to her mother.

    "The first line is, 'Sorry, mom, I smelled like cigarettes.' You know, it's the kind of thing your mom really doesn't want to hear," Ballerini explained.

    "But then you get to the chorus, the real heart of the song, and it's a thank-you letter to my mom for raising me the way she did," she added. It's a song that brims with the kind of wisdom that only comes from looking back at where you've been."
  • So what does Ballerini's mother think of the song? The first thing she said was, "You have nothing to be sorry for."

    "It was a very beautiful moment," the singer recalled to Billboard.

    "I think part of that song is addressing the generational pattern of maybe her mom swept things under the rug, and maybe if I didn't bring up some things, we probably would never talk about them," Ballerini added. "But it's about breaking that cycle and going from mother and daughter to more so woman to woman."
  • Kelsea Ballerini recorded "Sorry Mom" for her fifth album, Patterns. The album was born out of an all-women songwriting retreat in rural Missouri. This impromptu getaway happened because Ballerini needed a safe space to kickstart her creativity. Joined by her friends Jessie Jo Dillon, Karen Fairchild and Hillary Lindsey, the group shared wine, stories, and songwriting sessions, shaping what became a deeply introspective record. Kelsea described the retreat to Today as "womanhood with some wine," emphasizing the joy and camaraderie that fueled the music.

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