How Does It Feel To Be Forgotten

Album: I Said I Love You First (2025)
Charted: 86 71
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Songfacts®:

  • "How Does It Feel To Be Forgotten" is a song from I Said I Love You First, the 2025 collaborative album by Selena Gomez and her fiancé, Benny Blanco. The track is a masterclass in the art of the graceful (or not-so-graceful) brush-off. It's a breakup song, but not the weepy kind. This is the part where you've moved on, found happiness, and revel in the thought that your ex hasn't.
  • In the song, Gomez addresses a former flame after bumping into him. While he is still battling unresolved emotions, she is radiant, at peace, entirely unbothered and firmly in the present. It ends with the Spanish line, "Ahora todo está dicho y hecho. Todo está olvidado," which translates to "Now all is said and done. All is forgotten." You can almost hear the door clicking shut.
  • Naturally, the internet had a field day speculating that "How Does It Feel To Be Forgotten" is about Gomez' ex, Justin Bieber. But Gomez, who is used to fans analyzing her lyrics as though they're ancient religious texts, was quick to set the record straight. "People love to dissect my music," she noted in the album's commentary, in a tone that probably implied a very large eye-roll. "This specific song is about things we've experienced, not just my past. It's just an honest song, and that's all I wanted it to be."
  • Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco wrote "How Does It Feel To Be Forgotten" with Mikky Ekko, Justin Tranter and William Fly.

    Mikky Ekko, born John Stephen Sudduth, is an American singer and songwriter. He gained recognition for co-writing and featuring on Rihanna's 2013 hit single "Stay." This is one of three tracks he co-wrote on I Said I Love You First.

    Justin Tranter is a frequent Gomez collaborator, including her hits "Good For You," "Hands To Myself," and "Bad Liar." He also worked with Benny Blanco on Julia Michaels' "Issues."

    William Fly also played guitar. "How Does It Feel To Be Forgotten" is his first major credit.
  • I Said I Love You First was recorded at Benny Blanco's house in an atmosphere that was more cozy than calculated. "This was just an idea that started in our bedroom - like, 'Let's just make something fun,'" Blanco told Zane Lowe. "Everything felt right. It almost felt too good."

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