I Don't Want To Be A Bride

Album: Rabbits on the Run (2011)
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  • Every little girl dreams of getting married, right? Vanessa Carlton wondered where that idea came from, and presents a counter-argument to the idea of wedded bliss as an aspiration. She told us: "I have yet to hear a song that represented that point of view and that kind of female philosophy. Which, I believe is very optimistic, it totally is subscribing to a great love. I absolutely believe that, and I also support people that want to get married. That's totally your prerogative and I have met a few couples that have wonderful marriages. This is the way that I feel. And it's not very popular. (laughing) I hear a lot of the male side, from the male point of view, you know, I don't want to settle down. Not ready to settle down. It's different, it's not anti-settling."
  • Carlton was 30 years old when the Rabbits on the Run album was released, and like many girls, she felt some pressure to get married. She told us: "This kind of buzz of anxiety that surrounds a lot of women when you hit a certain age - about marriage - I wish that didn't exist. And I understand the whole pregnancy situation with women where if you want to have a child, you only have so much time. But you still can wait to your early 40s, you still could figure something out. I think it's a bit unfair, because I think it shuts down a lot of women in their most exploratory phase of their life. I mean, I just turned 30 and I can't even tell you how much more curious I am - I'm more curious now than I've ever been." (Check out our full Vanessa Carlton interview.)
  • Vanessa Carlton did become a bride when she married Deer Tick singer John McCauley on December 27, 2013. Fleetwood Mac singer Stevie Nicks, who is an ordained minister, officiated the wedding ceremony.

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  • Beth from N/a, VaKudos to Vanessa for expressing a point of view that isn't heard very often. Not all girls dream of getting married and it's great to finally have a song that speaks to that perspective.
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