Album: The Stranger (1977)

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• Don't go changing to try and please me
  You never let me down before, mmm-hmm
  I don't imagine you're too familiar
  And I don't see you anymore
  
  I would not leave you in times of trouble
  We never could have come this far
  I took the good times, I'll take the bad times
  I'll take you just the way you are
  
  Don't go trying some new fashion
  Don't change the color of your hair, mm-hmm
  You always have my unspoken passion
  Although I might not seem to care
  
  I don't want clever conversation
  I never want to work that hard, mm-hmm
  I just want someone that I can talk to
  I want you just the way you are
  
  I need to know that you will always be
  The same old someone that I knew
  Oh, what will it take 'til you believe in me
  The way that I believe in you?
  
  I said I love you, that's forever
  And this I promise from the heart, mm-hmm
  I couldn't love you any better
  I love you just the way you are
  
  Wait
  
  I don't want clever conversation
  I never want to work that hard, mm-hmm
  I just want someone that I can talk to
  I want you just the way you are Writer/s: Billy Joel
  Publisher: Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Universal Music Publishing Group
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Comments: 35

• Merrick from San FranciscoAccording to an interview with Lee Loughnane, the trumpetist of the band Chicago, on Sirius XM (August 2022), members of Chicago were asked by Phil Ramone to sing the 10cc-like backing vocals on this track. They are, however, uncredited.
• Rick from PhiladelphiaThe title of this song and the main line of the song (I love you just the way you are), is the last line of the Four Seasons hit, "Rag Doll".
• Melinda from AustraliaWhen Paul Macartney was asked which song He wished he wrote. It was Just The Way You Are. By Billy Joel.
  If you think about it it sounds like something Paul Macartney would have wrote either when in The Beatles. Or Wings
  For those who have been led to believe that the wife, Elizabeth Weber, Billy Joel wrote this for is wonderful. Think again.
  She was actually quite sociopathic. Stole millions of his money with her brother. And caused Billy Joel to attempt suicide twice.
  It’s hardly surprising Always A Woman was also written about her. It tells the story of a total narcissist. And he’s completely baffled by her abusive behaviour. Without remorse.
  Billy Joel eventually discovered Elizabeth Weber and her brother stole a total of 60 million from him.
  His mistake. Making her manager and marrying her.
  This is what happens when people are hopelessly in love and impressed by a strong person. Who fakes real love, doesn’t appear to need love as much money. And you end up Mistaking strength for abuse.
  Billy Joel was in awe of Elizabeth Weber. Cause she was a tough hard arse business woman.
  And she came along when Billy Joel’s finances were in disarray. She vowed to fix that. She did. For herself. And her money grabbing brother.
  She probably owns the publishing rights to Just the Way You Are. As she does, his song, Always A Woman.
  Why?
  Because she conned Billy Joel into agreeing to it.
  
  She also tried to take advantage of him when was high on meds in hospital after a serious motorbike accident. She arrived with a contract to get him to sign over all his rights to her. Thank God he refused that. And finally divorced her.
  She went on to graduate from a top American Bussiness School after that.
  Billy Joel was was almost sent bankrupt by Elizabeth Weber. After an outstanding 2 decades of non stop hits.
  And all because he failed to face up to and discover her manipulative gold digger managerial moves. Something he bitterly regrets to this day.
  Knowin these facts makes it difficult for me to listen to this song like I used to.
  Cause it was written when he was completely being fooled by her. And the astonishing thing is, photos from the 1970’s. When they were together prove she was not even abit good looking. In fact in most pics she looks like his mother. Or at least 15 years older than him.
• Ken from Louisville, KyIn early 1977, when Joel was in discussions with Phil Ramone about Ramone producing his next album. Joel had a concert scheduled for Carnage Hall, that Ramone attended, and performed this song for the first time as a surprise for his (then) wife. A few months later, when Ramone listened to Joel's demos for the album he asked Joel about the song. Joel said it was just a song for his wife and he never intended to record it, but Ramone convinced him to give it a go during the sessions for what was to become "The Stranger". And the rest is pop music history!
• Betteann from Reunion FloridaThis song gets my very highest appreciation as pure brilliance. The very first time I heard it on the radio in a car, it went straight to my mind and heart and every time I hear it I have the same emotional reaction.
• Barry from Sauquoit, NyOn March 19th 1978, Billy Joel appeared in concert at the Theatre Royal, Drury Lane, in London, England, it would be his debut concert in the United Kingdom...
  And back in the U.S.A. he had two records on Billboard's Hot Top 100 chart; "Just the Way You Are" was at #10 while "Movin' Out" was at #69...
  "Just the Way You Are" was moving its way down the chart, the month before on February 12th it peaked at #3 {for 2 weeks}, and "Movin' Out" was in its second week on the Top 100 and nine weeks later it would peak at #17 {for 2 weeks} and spent 14 weeks on the Top 100...
  "Just the Way You Are" would peak at #1 on Billboard's Adult Contemporary Tracks chart {See third post below} and "Movin' Out" would reach #40 on the chart...
  William Martin Joel will celebrate his 66th birthday in two months on May 9th {2015}.
• David from OrlandoMaybe Billy Joel himself doesn't think much of this song for a variety of personal reasons, but I consider it to be one of the most beautiful sentiments ever expressed in pop music history. As well as the musical elements work in the song, what puts it over the top is the fundamental truth summed up in the title: Who in their right mind would not be appreciative of knowing they're loved for just being themselves? Some might consider the notion overplayed in pop culture, but I believe the point can never truly be overemphasized, especially given the cynicism that plagues contemporary society. I also enjoy the Diana Krall version a lot, but not quite as resonant overall. Furthermore, with all due respect to the Bruno Mars song with the same title (but different in every other way, not a cover by any means), no other version of this concept has touched me as deeply. Chances are, millions of others around the world can relate to that feeling. The feeling of being loved just the way you are can also be relevant in non-romantic situations and even in spiritual situations with the Lord.
• Barry from Sauquoit, NyOOPS!!!!
  Concerning my post below I forgot to include three facts:
  It entered the Top 100 at position #89...
  It stayed at #3 for two weeks...
  And for 8 of the 27 weeks on the Top 100 is was on the Top 10...
  (I'm 69 years old, and will have to double check my future info before I post).
• Barry from Sauquoit, NyOn February 12th, 1978, "Just The Way You Are" by Billy Joel peaked at #3 (for weeks) on Billboard's Hot Top 100 chart; it had entered the chart on November 6th and spent over a half-year on the Top 100 (27 weeks)...
  And on January 1st, 1979 it reached #1 (for 4 weeks) on Billboard's Adult Contemporary Tracks and peaked at #2 on the Canadian RPM Singles chart...
  Was track three of side one from his fifth studio album, 'The Stranger', and the album peaked #2 on Billboard's Top 200 Albums chart...
  Three other tracks from the album also made the Top 100; "Movin' Out (Anthony's Song)" (#17), "Only The Good Die Young" (#24), and "She's Always A Woman" (#17)...
  In three months Mr. Joel will be eligible for Medicare; he will celebrate his 65th birthday on May 9th (2014).
• Jon from San Bernardino, CaI heard last night that Phil Woods only got $500 for laying down that solo, with no royalties. It's 'funny' how the music/recording business works.
• Oldpink from New Castle, InWell, Billy was right.
  It IS a chick song, but so what?
  It is also a guy song, considering it speaks for legions of men who desperately wish that the woman we fall in love with will not feel the nearly inexorable female impulse to purposefully change.
  And I am not talking about aging, either, which is normal and expected.
  Phil Woods turns in one incredible bit of gentle sax work on this, too.
  I saw an interview with Billy Joel fairly recently, and he said that he refuses to perform this live anymore.
  I suppose it would get easy to grow tired of a song after so many times, but it is really a pity.
  Does anyone honestly believe that Eric Clapton would ever refuse to perform "Layla" out of irritation?
• Daniel from Binghamton, NyDuring his 2001 tour Syracuse performance Joel substituted "I couldn't love you any longer" for "any better" towards the end of the song.
• Ken from Louisville, KyDrummer Liberty DeVito always sang along with Joel during concerts. This was done, partly, to help Joel in case he forgot the words. Following Joel's divorce in the early 80's, to tease Joel, during the line "I love you just the way you are", DeVito sang "She got the house, she got the car". Since his voice wasn't miked, only Joel could hear that.
• Michaela from Brooklyn, NySweet song.On of the most perfect songs you could dedicate to a lover.
• Ken from Louisville, KyThe tradition in the 70's was to let the artist pick the first single off of their albums. CBS pleaded wiith Joel to make this the first single, but he refused, selecting "Movin' Out" instead. CBS then released this as a single. It was held back from being #1 by the Gerry Raferty's massive hit "Baker Street", which was #1 for many weeks during the same period.
• Matthew from Milford, MaActually, it's the first song in the "Shrek in the Swamp Kareoke Party" on the Shrek DVD. But, yes, Shrek does sing the song (or, rather, the first two lines - "Don't go changing to try to please me, you've never let me down before...")
• Lalah from Wasilla, AkI can't believe nobody has posted that in the movie, "Shrek", the titled character sings this to Fiona at their wedding reception. Considering that she changes from human to ogre when the sun goes down and she remains an ogre for him, I thought this song was perfect.
• Mike from Hueytown , AlGreat song....I guess Joel doesn't want to rehash memories he gets from playing it. The song makes me think too...
• Lucas from Beijing, ChinaThe saxophone player, Phil Woods, had a great performance in this song. And it's one of the greatest sax solos of those great songs. Diana Krall's version is great too, but Michael Brecker's performance there was not as good and fluent as Phil Woods'.
• Alan from Singapore, SingaporeTo Michael from Houston, the reason why the lyrics seem different is because many compilations and even his greatest hits album edited the song. The sad part is those words that are edited out are beautiful too! You can hear this song in its entirety on The Stranger album and also some people who have covered this song (Barry White and Diana Krall come to mind) sing it in its entirety
• Sean from Brockton, MaI heard a rumor that after hearing this song (or it might have been "She's always a woman"), Christie Brinkley called the radio station (somewhere on Long Island I think) to complain they shouldn't play that song because it was about his first wife. Anyone else heard this?
• Mike from Worcester, MaThis was my parent's wedding song. They had a close friend come in and play guitar and sing it live... in the church! Pretty brave to do this at a Catholic church in 77, especially with "Only The Good Die Young" coming out at the same time. My mother's grandmother said she remembered this song many years later and still loved it, so it means a lot to me.
• Leyna from SpEveryone seemed to think this song was sappy and wimpy.
• Barry from New York, NyCriticsm of Billy Joel in the press was just starting to take hold during his first period of superstardom in 1977. There was actually critical backlash following the release of the JUST THE WAY YOU ARE single. Some of the criticism focused on possible chauvinstic lyrics, probably the ones about "clever conversation." Billy snapped back and said it was just about telling his woman "not to change."
• Dennis from Anchorage, AkThis was most certainly NOT the first single off of "The Stranger." 'Movin' Out' was all over the radio before most people knew who Billy Joel was.
  
  I do remember watching him perform this on Saturday Night Live. He also did "Only the Good Die Young," which shocked my little Catholic heart at the time. It was a pretty ballsy song for the '70's.
• Chris from Portland, CtThis is one of Joel's least favorite songs to play. He wrote it for his 1st wife, but the marraige didn't last.
  Still a great hit.
• Am from LiverpoolThe title of this song was inspired by Billy's mum. Apparently when he was in school as a child he would get picked on for being small. When he told his mother about it she said 'I love you just the way you are' I read this in a book called 'Chicken Soup For The Soul #1 great story if you ever get a chance to get your hands on the book.
• Scott from Columbus, OhAll drama side...it's actually a very song about a mans adoration of his woman, The reasons he loves her and the unnecessary involvements to perfections...(She's perfect the way she is). It's shameful that people have to disect such a beautiful song to a point of losing it's intimacy.
  
• Barry from New York, NcThis song features the Fender Rhodes piano, which originally was a funky jazz instrument (check out Chick Correa's work with it) but by the mid seventies, it became the hallmark of a lot of sappy ballads. Actually I do like Billy Joel's usage of the Fender Rhodes in this song, but it might have paved the way for the abuse of this electric keyboard in the mid 70s-early 80s.
• Michael from Houston, Txat about 2:55 to 2:56 in the song you hear this snapping sound. can anyone explain it? Also why are the lyrics different written down differently than sung in the song?
• Ken from Louisville, KyBilly Joel will not perform this song in concert anymore, excect, at times, on his college "lecture" tour, where he'll do a parody version, at a faster tempo, such as a lounge singer might do it.
• Stuart from Essex, EnglandJust The Way You Are hold the unique title of being the only song to be edited out of retail available media productions of UK comedy series Ony Fools and Horses-TWICE!
  
  Obviously Mr Joel likes his royalties!!!
• Pete from Nowra, Australiaof all the songs he performs live , this is the one he's sick and tired of singing
• Kei from Salem, OrThis was Joel's breakthrough hit, peaking at #3 on the Billboard Top 40. It was only the beginning, as he would have a steady string of Top 40 hits from his albums over the next 15 years, with each album yielding at least a Top 10 single.
• Dc from Hilo, HiBilly didn't think this song came out sounding like the way he first wrote it. He later referred to it as "Phil Ramone's bossa nova" version of the song.

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