Album: Tea For The Tillerman (1970)

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• It's not time to make a change
  Just relax, take it easy
  You're still young, that's your fault
  There's so much you have to know
  Find a girl, settle down
  If you want you can marry
  Look at me, I am old, but I'm happy
  
  I was once like you are now, and I know that it's not easy
  To be calm when you've found something going on
  But take your time, think a lot
  Why, think of everything you've got
  For you will still be here tomorrow, but your dreams may not
  
  How can I try to explain? 'Cause when I do he turns away again
  It's always been the same, same old story
  From the moment I could talk I was ordered to listen
  Now there's a way and I know that I have to go away
  I know, I have to go
  
  It's not time to make a change (away, away, away)
  Just sit down, take it slowly
  You're still young, that's your fault (I know)
  There's so much you have to go through (I have to make this decision)
  Find a girl, settle down (alone)
  If you want you can marry
  Look at me (no)
  I am old, but I'm happy
  
  All the times that I cried (stay, stay, stay)
  Keeping all the things I knew inside
  It's hard, but it's harder to ignore it (why must you go)
  (And make this decision?)
  If they were right, I'd agree, but it's them they know not me (alone)
  Now there's a way and I know that I have to go away
  I know I have to go Writer/s: Yusuf Islam
  Publisher: BMG Rights Management
  Lyrics licensed and provided by LyricFind

Comments: 52

• Just Me from UsaDoes anyone know the name of the little girl in the 1970 or 1971 video? I would estimate she would be around 60 now.
• Donald Moore from Plattsburgh, Nyloved this article so much! the meaning of the song, pointing out the son's voice louder, the history, the reason I checked it out was it's use in Ted Lasso. Reading this gave me the feel of listening to Kasey Kasem's top 40 and his interesting deep dives & dedications!
• Choymae Huie from Valencia, CaliforniaFor some reason, I am very attracted to Cat Stevens work.
• David from Earthloved him then islam thing then loved him again
• Neety from Australia Does anyone know who the actors were in the original Cat Stevens "father and son" music video, the grandfather and grandchild, also was the grandchild a bit or a girl?
• Beth Schwartz from Long Island, New YorkI grew up listening to the music of this very gifted man. He wrote songs full of meaning from his soul. Songs that really made you think. The 70's were a very difficult and yet happy time. His music made people slow down a bit and think of how remarkable the world is, and to respect each other. Thank you Yusuf
• Andrew from ScotlandI think it's a very touching and moving song about a father giving his son some advice for adulthood. Makes me think of the close relationship I have with my son. Where I had heard Cat Steven's before I will admit that I first heard it in Guardians of the galaxy volume 2 and the lyrics fitted quite well of the type of father Peter quill wanted and was touching to watch him pick up baby groot and being a dad to him.
• Joseph from Fort WorthThis song reminds me of my Dad and I. When I left home he continued to assure me he was okay with it until I heard the difference in his voice when he would try to get me to move back. He told me the same things. Take your time, find a girl and settle down....think alot....and remember to know all that you've got.
• Daiana from Rojas I had never heard the song of Cat Stevens. I really like this song because the lyric is mobilizing and calls people attention.
• Alii from RojasI don't like the song very much, but it has a meaning for many people with similar stories.
• Brian L from Argentina, Bs.as, RojasI had never heard Stevens but when I heard the song I really liked it.
  The song has good rhythm and the lyrics are very good.
• Lula from RojasI don't like the song because I believe it's boring and sad so I can't find anything interesting in it.
• Nadia Tabarez from RojasFor me the song is very thoughtful, because nowadays young people do not listen to their parents and want to go and do what they want.
  This father only wants the best for his son, he tell him to relax, settle down so that tomorrow has a family and he is happy.
• Alehornos from ArgentinaIt is a singer who I did not know, whit very beatiful lyrics and a rhythm that brings peace to hear. A story to belive, with very little sense to reflect but with a rhythm gives you peace of mind.
• Sol Sartori from Rojas, Bs. As., Argentina I don't like the mix between the views of the child and parents, buy the good thing is that he has a problem of all teenagers with their parents.
• Magali from Argentina, Bs.as, RojasI think that the song is very interesting because it identifies with other people personal problems.
• Lucas Hornos from Argentina, Bs.as, RojasIt is the first time that I listen to Cat Stevens. I really like this lyrics, the melody is special for this lyrics, and the lyrics reflect me sadness because that person will not return.
• Kat from Adelaide, AustraliaInteresting lyrical technique with the second and fourth verses being sung from the "son's" perspective. I wonder if there is a multiple meaning in the lyric, the explicit generation gap reference, but also a pacifist/anti-war metaphor, or a gay/coming out metaphor? Both would fit with the times in the early '70's, and Cat Stevens' sympathies (at least at the time he wrote this!) at the time.
• Claire from Oxford, United KingdomFinding a whole load of music on this website that I thought I had forgotten and just loving it!
• Nola from Gravenhurst, OnThe Bible was written by writers who were inspired by God to write down his thoughts in their own words throughout the centuries. The theme of the Bible through the writers is always the same. The purpose of mankind, the purpose of making the world and all that is in it. the future of mankind depends largely on how we accept our Creator and do the things he asks of us. He sent his son Jesus Christ to us and showed us what is expected of us in order to gain everlasting life. He showed through his son all the wonderful things mankind can expect in a society free of Satan the Devil and his Demon followers. His saving abilities, his attributes, his love for mankind goes far beyond any thing we have seen in our lives. The dictionary calls his name Jehovah. He is the Alpha and the Omega. Without him there is no beginning and no end. Together they made man in their image. If we do our homework, if we ask in faith, we will find the answers. The Bible says we should search for the true God for he is not far off from us. Music touches the soul. God loves music.
• Mom from Richmond, VaAfter our 31-year-old son died, my husband recommended this song to me if I needed something to get the grief flowing out instead of locking it in. I first read the lyrics, and sure enough, they spoke to me of a son, trying to communicate with his parents, who had made the painful decision to commit suicide. I am so grateful to Cat Stevens for giving a voice to so much, known or unknown, through what is truly a gift, the universal language of music.
• Lara from Melbourne, AustraliaFrom a tribute show I watched a year ago, this song was actually part of a musical that Cat Stevens was writing, although the musical never came to anything.
• P from Chicago, IlWhen I was a teenager, I used to listen to this song and identify with the son. Heard it again recently as an adult, and thought, "Why, that arrogant little snot ought to listen to his father!" Go figure.
• Sam from Shellharbour, Australiahis son could be a metaphor for islam n what not ?
• Pierre from Madbury, NhSon: "All the times that I've cried, keeping all the things I knew inside. It's hard, but it's harder to ignore it." A son coming out perhaps? Peace
• Pierre from Madbury, Nh"All the times that I've cried, keeping all the things I knew inside.
  It's hard, but it's harder to ignore it." A son coming out perhaps? Peace
• Guy from Wellington, New ZealandAn incredibly moving song that every father and son can probably relate to. It cracks me up regularly, more now I'm the father of a teenage son than when I was in the boy's position. No real enduring happiness without the pain & suffering that surely accompanies it. Amazing that Stevens (apparently) regrets writing it -- it is such a classic. I guess that goes to show that sometimes great things just come through people -- they don't necessarily remain in that inspired place.
• Dan from Boston, MaAs mentioned at the top - the song is based on a Russian family. Turgenev's "Fathers and Sons" was the inspiration.
• Lester from New York City, NyI'm an old Hard Rock fan (Sabbath, Mountain, UFO, AC/DC), but 'Tea for the Tillerman' is one of my favorite albums.
• Crystal from Bribie Island, Australiai think it is a beautiful song. its a type of song that should be an example to all fathers to give their sons advice about what life will be like
• Robby from Nyc, NyA great moveing song. Have been playing and singing it for 25 years. Used to be very touching to my late Mom. Never understood why Cat Stevens, regarding the song in an interview, commented that he'd wished he'd never written it and that it was the worst thing he'd ever written. Never-the-less I'm glad he did write it, and I'm happy to express my version every chance I get. Just ask and I'll sing.
• Jim from Somewhere, PaThis song fits my relationship with my father to a "T" (RIP Dad)..
• Hasibe from Aydin, TurkeyIt's a great song. I like it very much.also I am going to use this song for my microteaching to share it with my friends.
• Linda from Italy, CtA very emotional song.I feel very melanconic when I listen to it.The love of a father for his son...even when he always ordered him to listen...Great Cat....!!!!
• Michael from Montreal,que., CanadaThanks Fred for introducing me to this music.I will forever think of you when i'm listening to him.Michael
• Greg from Oakville, CanadaIt was first heard on the album "Tea For The Tillerman", which was way before his "Moonshadow" album, and "Moonshadow" was just a greatest hits album.
  
  "Tea For The Tillerman" is by far his best album
• Jerry from Eatontown, NjI never was close to my father in my life. And the touching dialogue between the father and son is something very precious. Cat Stevens was a very under rated song writer even though he had a string of hits. But nonetheless his genius can not be questioned.
• Alan from Dublin, IrelandI always thought that this song was about a conversation between man abd God???
• Leon from Waterbury, CtI always saw it as a song about a father telling his son what to do, without listening at all to what his son is saying or feeling...but, still...great song.
• Katerina from AthensIt was my first Cat-Song as well... I love Cat Stevens ever since... what a great ^ emotional voice...!
• Michael from Tasmania, Australiathis was my first Cat song i ever heard, it was then i fell in love with his music, this song has so much meaning for me, and it moves me emotionally everytime i listen to it
• Nessie from Sapporo, JapanThe change in speaker is indicated by a jump in octave. This song was covered by Johnny Cash.
• Sarah from Colac, AustraliaThis is a true classic and i love it very much, cat stevens you rock!
• John from Gosford, AustraliaI wish he had allowed it to be used in Moulin Rouge! I want Cat to be as publicised as possible to he is known to everyone. What a shame. But I guess the guy wasn't comfortable with it so I will respect that.
• Ionela from Baia-sprie, Romania Cat's message in 'Father and Son'is extraordinary.What he wants to say in this song is that we,all,will have to leave the 'nest',to leave our parents and home in order to begin a new life,our own.If we succeded in life means that our parents educated us well.The song is in fact a comment of a difficult situation in life:to leave your parents or your parents to 'leave' you.
• Vivian from Gainesville, United StatesFather and Son is a timeless classic that will thrive many generation gaps. It's no wonder.
  
  Vivian, Gainesville, Florida
• Natasha from Chico, Cacat was kicked off a plane in the u.s.recently for suspected connections to terrorist groups.ooh, baby, baby, it's a wild world.
• Natasha from Chico, Cai wish cat would have let moulin rouge use the song for the basis of the film. then maybe i actually would have liked the movie. But i guess you have to respect that he sticks to his principles and ideas.
• Natasha from Chico, CaThis song is so amazing. Everyone can relate to it, sons, daughters, fathers, and mothers. i thought that cat wrote the song about himself and his father. A good friend of mine first introduced me to cat, and he told me he cries when he hears the song, because it reminds him of him and his own father. And I made my sister listen to it, because our dad wanted her to do one thing with her life, but she wanted another, and she was really down about it. She cried when she heard the song too, but it was good for her; she decided to do what SHE wanted to do, and i think she's happier for it. I made my dad listen to it too to make him change his ideas, and now whenever we go on a little roadtrip with the fam, we listen to "Father and Son", if not all of "tea for the tillerman."
• Justin from Bakersfield, CaI heard Cat Stevens also say that this song could be about a Son who has a new found faith, and the father wants him to stay with his religion. Hint the " If they were right id agree but its them they know not me " i heard him say that in a interview on a San Francisco radio show.
• Glenn from Dunedin, New Zealand' "You are old, Father William," the young man said ?' (CL. Dodgson, Alice? ) and C. Stevens' old man replies, "I am old but I'm happy". The untruth of that happiness is clear. So Stevens leaves his own father to find a 'way'. The first sign posts for the begining of the 'way' are recorded in the immediately preceding song "On the Road to Find Out". "Well I left my happy home, to see what could find out?". The theme of Tea for the Tillerman is the loss of innocence as we emerge from childhood. "You will still be here tomorrow, but your dreams may not."
• Chris from Hamilton, New Zealandone of the greatest songs ever written. Cat could have writtenREMs EVERYBODY HURTS. The message in Fater and son is loud and clear. one of the few songs that every father and every son can honestly (if unwantingly) relate to.

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