Not My Responsibility

Album: Happier Than Ever (2021)
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  • Do you know me?
    Really know me?
    You have opinions
    About my opinions
    About my music
    About my clothes
    About my body
    Some people hate what I wear
    Some people praise it
    Some people use it to shame others
    Some people use it to shame me
    But I feel you watching
    Always
    And nothing I do goes unseen
    So while I feel your stares
    Your disapproval
    Or your sigh of relief
    If I lived by them
    I'd never be able to move
    Would you like me to be smaller, weaker, softer, taller?
    Would you like me to be quiet?
    Do my shoulders provoke you? Does my chest?
    Am I my stomach? My hips?
    The body I was born with
    Is it not what you wanted?
    If I wear what is comfortable
    I am not a woman
    If I shed the layers
    I'm a slut
    Though you've never seen my body
    You still judge it
    And judge me for it
    Why?
    We make assumptions about people based on their size
    We decide who they are
    We decide what they're worth
    If I wear more, if I wear less
    Who decides what that makes me, what that means?
    Is my value based only on your perception?
    Or is your opinion of me not my responsibility? Writer/s: Billie Eilish O'Connell, Finneas Baird O'Connell
    Publisher: Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd., Universal Music Publishing Group
    Lyrics licensed and provided by LyricFind

Comments: 1

  • Piper from Portland OrI love this new song, even though it came out in 1998, this is actually a remake. the simplicity of words and lyrics " my bowels are full of papa johns and there is a line at the door, can I be blamed for what falls on the floor, not my responsibility, not my fault, I warned house keeper to buy plenty of shout" I feel these words speak to young people in the age of pandemics, glad to see the wind blow and hear a clouds whisper.
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