Song For Barbara Ann

Album: Fade Away Blue (2025)
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  • Barbara Ann is Pete Droge's birth mother, and this song is about her. He was adopted as a baby and never went looking for his birth mom until about 2010, after he turned 40.

    "I began a lot of soul-searching and realized that being separated from my birth mother and the experience of adoption was a major thing," he told Songfacts in 2025. "I learned about ambiguous grief and adoption trauma. There's a writer named Nancy Verrier who talks about the separation of the baby from the mother being experienced as trauma, which impacts development. I started to unpack a lot of that around 2010, and a few weeks after all that was unearthed, I decided I was ready to search for my birth mother."

    Adoption records are open in Oregon, where he was born, so he was able to identify her in a search. But when he Googled her name, he learned that she had recently died.

    "That was a devastating loss and definitely an example of ambiguous grief because here I am grieving for someone I never actually knew," he said. "The silver lining was, that very night, I was on the phone with my grandmother, who is now 98. We talk all the time. My birth mother's brother, my uncle, is just eight years older than me, so it feels more like having a long-lost brother. They welcomed me into the family with open arms."
  • Droge wrote this song in 2012 but didn't release it until 2025 on his album Fade Away Blue. It's one of a handful of songs on the album that deal with his mother or his adoption journey. "Gypsy Rose" is another.
  • Droge wrote the song with his wife, Elaine Summers, a singer-guitarist who started working with him in 1993 when they started dating. She plays the cowbell on his 1994 hit "If You Don't Love Me (I'll Kill Myself)" and sings with him in the 2000 movie Almost Famous.

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